Saturday, September 06, 2008

How I feel about pit bulls

Tomorrow I’ll be 52. When I turned 50, I felt quite liberated from so much: what a gifted woman called "the tyranny of the male gaze," the opinions of fools, the insecurity which haunted me so much of my life. On the eve of my 52nd, that feeling of liberation has a layer of calm and ease.

Impending birthdays can’t help but engender some retrospection. I have led a full life, largely because of the random luck of having been born into a family with two parents who valued and insisted upon education. I have a wonderful job in a time when so many in Michigan are unemployed. I have the joy of an informed life. My son and I live in comfort unimaginable to most in the world: a secure future, a warm home, a safe neighborhood and the blessings of interesting and supportive friends and community.

We don’t hide from bombs falling on our street, we don’t fear death by random violence, we have plenty of fresh and healthy food, Ben has a wonderful school and supportive speech and occupational therapy. The lies and idiocy of our own national leaders haven’t made our lives difficult because we have the insulation of social status and class, and nationality. Bush didn’t invade our country, he just stole the presidency, twice.

Benjamin knows who Barack Obama is. We see his picture in the paper, Ben wants me to read the article. He wants to see him on TV, thinking that we might be able to just turn it on and find him. He knows he will be our next president.

I wonder what Mrs. Palin would think of our family. Trans-racial, single parent by choice, favoring HPV vaccination, socialized medicine, zero population growth. I am anti-war, pro-choice by experience and philosophy, and for the teaching of family planning in all levels of public school.

I know my family would strain her idea of family values.

But then, at 52, I live a maverick life rather than talk about it. And I am glad for it, because for me, that maverick life has included defending criminals, welcoming strangers, sexuality unconstrained by conventionality, siding with the oppressed, wrestling with ideas every day.

And I think pit bulls should be neutered or spayed, whether or not they wear lipstick.


Jayne said...

I love this post so much Cynthia that I just read it out loud to my husband in the other room. You are my hero. I think I am going to link to you and this post on my blog if that's ok? Warm hugs to you and Ben. :c)

Cynthia Bostwick said...

Jayne-I'd be honored by the link to your excellent blog, and will be returning the favor. Loved your post about Palin, which I just got to read--thank you! Hugs right back at you and your exceptional family!

Tera Rose said...

followed you here by means of journey through grace.....

LOVE IT.......let's spay the pitbull before she multiplies!

i am sick to my stomache that she thinks she can hold up an infant and say, "LOOK AT ME, I DIDN'T KILL THIS UNWANTED BABY"

because that it what I hear when she talks.....

My son, well, He IS a gift to me. I would never leave him in the hands of anyone else to care for while I went shopping or hunting whatever the case may be-

because he has too many secrets of life to whisper-

and I prefer to be the one to catch those secrets.

great blog.

troutbirder said...

I agree totally with you about pit bulls.... and the rest too. I also have a newly adopted granddaughter from Ethiopia. We love her dearly.